A couple of years back, I dragged my agnostic husband, Brian, to a Calvinist megachurch. Calvinist means God preselected a few humans for salvation and the rest for eternal torture. We sat there for an hour, goats among the sheep. Brian’s  reaction? “That was the best indie rock I’ve heard in a long time!”

Christians have a love-hate relationship with popular music. I came of age during a hate phase.  Rock was diabolical.  In my generation, Alice Cooper, missionary kid, played out his parents’ fears about rock music, chopping up baby dolls and  screeching about necrophilia while dressed as a 17th Century witch. Having postured on the enemy side of a fantastical spiritual war that supposedly encompasses us all, he now attends an evangelical mega in Scottsdale, Arizona.

In his youth, Alice had to choose between edgy rock and Jesus. By contrast, my nephew (raised by the same woman who raised me on Swan Lake — my mom) spent his teen years consuming a steady diet of Christian heavy metal. Mom’s complaints were focused on aesthetics. Matthew’s beloved “screamers” were distasteful, but not dangerous. Heavy metal had been co-opted. Instead of sketching daggers and bones dripping with stylized blood like secular metal fans, Matt could draw hearts and crosses dripping with stylized blood — and that was ok.

In Christianity, music is cement for faith. It can put people in that otherworldly frame of mind needed for repentance and conversion. It can call people to action and bind them to each other. It can evoke submission or ecstasy. Even the traditional interweaving of music and liturgy transforms passive observers into active worshipers.

The problem for fundies is that music can call people into the playful, sexual or political dimensions of social life. Young Christians are enticed to be “unequally yoked” with non-Christian band members, compatriots, or even lovers. At least that’s what a lot of parents and ministers worry about. That’s why in the long run it makes sense to co-opt pop music, whether it’s heavy metal or the folk tunes or medieval love songs that provided melodies for now-traditional hymns. Some ministers still try to guard young people from rock or hip hop music. But others work to “melt your face off” with a band that screams about Jesus.

Either way, I think they are right about the risk of secular music. Music can be a path out of insularity.  Not by itself, of course.  But music creates links to a whole wide world of human activities and ideas. For former fundies, it can also help with the healing process. When you’ve had your child-mind warped by scary songs liked “I Wish We’d all Been Ready” or when you’ve spent Sunday mornings swaying to “I’m a Pentecostal” or you’re dulcet tones were trained on “Saved by the Blood,” it can help to start feeding your brain some alternatives.

During the summer I sent out email to a few friends and online ex-Christians saying I was going to put together a playlist for recovering fundies. Seventy-three song titles came back at me —everything from Gershwin to Nine Inch Nails.

“Now what do I do?” I asked my daughter. “They won’t all fit in an article.”

“Just list mine,” she said, as if the solution was perfectly obvious.

So here are the top ten picks of a 14 year old (whose musical tastes, as will be apparent, were shaped by her dad more than her peers).

1. Blasphemous Rumours, Depeche Mode

2. Losing My Religion, REM

3.Jesus’ Brother Bob, Arrogant Worms

4. Stairway to Heaven, Led Zeppelin

5. One Tin Soldier, Coven

6. Cathedral, Cosby, Stills & Nash

7. Heaven’s Here on Earth, Tracy Chapman

8. Freewill, Rush

9. Everybody Knows, Leonard Cohen

10. One of Us, Joan Osborne

Oh, and of course, Imagine.” It goes without saying.

The other sixty three one hundred and seventeen can be found at www.spaces.live.com/awaypoint.

Tens of thousands of people have descended upon the picturesque Gorge this week, and, just like any festivalgoers, they are here to scream, headbang and mosh.

But for this crowd, it’s all in the name of a higher power.

Creation Northwest is one of the largest Christian music festivals in the nation — the largest on the West Coast — one of a set of sibling festivals. Now into its 11th year, this sprawling, four-day event draws more than 20,000 people. Creation Northeast, in its 31st year in Pennsylvania, attracts about 75,000.

Creation Northwest began Wednesday night and continues through Saturday.

“All day you get to hear music and a message,” said Jarred Hill, 15, describing his experience at past Creation fests a couple weeks back. “That doesn’t happen at other concerts,” he said. “That makes it better.”

Hill and his 13-year-old brother, Alex, have been going to Creation at the Gorge for the past two years with Seattle Community Church, in the Laurelhurst neighborhood.

“It’s all good because we’re super-close, we go to the same concert, spend time together and at the same time praise God,” said Hill, a sophomore at Kamiak High School in Mukilteo.